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Do you each have your own hobby/interest?
You each need time for your own self-development and your own set of friends, as well as sharing leisure time. There is no need to feel threatened if you spend enough time together and all is well between the two of you. It is unrealistic to expect your partner to meet all your needs.
Put a big cross in your diary
at least for one evening a fortnight and ensure that you keep that evening for the two of you. A relationship is like a plant - if you don't feed and water it, it is going to die! Oh … and try this: 500 Lovemaking tips and Sex Secrets
Be cunning and plot ahead!
If you have children, forget about being spontaneous.
Consult your GP
if you feel 'dead from the waist down' or have other sexual relationship problems, regardless of your age--do something about it.
Do something completely out of the ordinary together
If you both like the cinema - go to a theatre performance instead. If you like opera, go to a football match. If you like watching movies at home, go for a six-mile hike. If you normally go to a football match, go to a tennis match instead. Life can become ever so serious when you have bills to pay and a job to do and you may have little control over that.
Listen to the music you liked when you met
Read the letters/emails you sent to each other (if you had any at all and have kept them!). Wear the aftershave/perfume you wore when you first met - your brain will do the rest!
Stop 'rehearsing' what you dislike about your partner
you are routinely making yourself (and him/her) more miserable. Decide that you are going to remind yourself of his/her best qualities.
Have the children stay elsewhere for the night
Cook a three-course meal for your partner (or buy ready made stuff and pretend!). Dress up for the occasion - get changed in different rooms to add to the surprise.
Plan ahead
Spend at least a couple of weekends a year together away from the children. It is important to do something out of the ordinary. Go cheap: go camping, hire a bicycle, or expensive: go luxurious, if only for one night.
Organise a surprise
picnic at six in the morning to see to sun come up and listen to the morning chorus of the birds, or picnic at midnight and watch the stars.
Take the television out of your bedroom
A bedroom is for sleeping. Make love, just be tender, or listen to music or a spoken book together instead of watching television.
Brainstorm together
Write down any idea to change your regular pattern you can think of, however silly it might initially seem. Sift later and plan for the best.
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