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Relationship advice and counselling marriage guidance counselling and advice |
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Often clients coming for relationship counselling will say that they have been reluctant to 'rock the boat'. 'Rocking the boat' does not mean you are going to fall out! |
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Obvious solutions to obvious problems? |
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Often couples present with a variety of difficulties in their relationship. Seldom is there a single answer. However, if you are able to solve a problem in one area of your life you are going to have more emotional and physical energy to invest in other areas of your life and you may even be able to use the same problem solving tools/patterns in other situations leading to a reduction in overall stress levels. |
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No other way but to end the relationship? |
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It may be that after all you have tried to improve your relationship, you can see no other way forward than to accept its ending. Divorce counselling can help you to make sense of the changes and inevitable losses and can enable you make a start again - on your own, with a new partner, with or without children. A counsellor should also be able to help you decide on how best to help your children through the separation or divorce. |
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What to expect from relationship counselling |
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identify the patterns of the ups and downs of your relationship explore your 'role' in successes of your relationship explore your 'role' in the disappointments of your relationship learn to deal with arguments about 'rights' or 'wrongs' share your hopes and expectations have your perceptions/ideas 'translated' for your partner if needed identify the exact nature of the problem identify your own individual resources identify your collective resources explore the potential future of your relationship explore the consequences of ending your relationship recover from what might feel utter devastation after an affair learn to listen to each other to improve communication learn to negotiate to get the best possible outcome for you both learn about the difference between 'needs' and 'wants' find out about differences in male and female brains (ideally!) question your own behaviour and opinions get to know yourself better bring about change in yourself and your relationship |
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In couple counselling your relationship can benefit by you both being encouraged and supported to: |
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What not to expect from relationship counselling |
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advice you on whether or not you should end your relationship advice on whether or not you should have a trial separation an opinion on your partner in terms of 'good' or 'bad' destructive criticism about your actions/opinions a possibility that the counsellor will change your partner |
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What you will NOT get in relationship counselling is: |
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If your partner is not interested in relationship counselling |
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consider the effects of changes in you on the people around you explore the role you might play in your relationship problems explore your options in terms of your future consider how you can improve your communication skills Identify and deal with any personal problems get support if you have decided to end your relationship |
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Individual counselling can still help you to: |
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Elly Prior, HG Dip P, Cert CC Relate, MHGI, MBACP (Accred) Human Givens Therapist Gillingham, Kent, UK Tel.: (+44) 01634 856176 Email |
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Updated: 07/01/06 |
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'Learning from Wonderful Lives' The first self-help book by Dr FeelGood of The Times. |